IEP---DONE!!

Well, as you all know, I've been pretty nervous about the transition from the Early On Program (0-3) to ECDD (Early Childhood Developmental Delay 3+) Preschool. Today was the IEP. All three of the therapists that Natalie works with at school, the preschool director, Jake and I were present. The meeting was slotted for an hour, but lasted almost 2. We ended up getting all of the services that we asked for, without even a real battle. She will also be able to go 4 days, and not the 3 that they wanted her to go. The big thing that is so hard to swallow, is how far behind the school has Natalie slated, compared to the private therapists levels. I am sure it is because they are still using old school methodologies. Also, they aren't very realistic, they want skills at 100% before moving on. No 2 year old is at 100% in any skill, heck no person in general is either. This is what frustrates Jake and I the most, but we know where she really is at. Their famous words, "She has to be able to show us here every time." Then, of course, they asked us the big question-- "What are your goals for Natalie?" Of course we said life? or now? NOW- "To be mainstreamed." I stayed strong (had an angel looking out for me) no crying and very firm on what the problems were this year, and what we expect for next year. Jake was great at the meeting with a very strong voice. In the past, he has sat back and let me drive the ship, but not today he was full force ahead and very frank to the problems we've had.

Looking at Natalie, lately, my thoughts have changed quite a bit. I used to be SO stressed about the school aspect of her life. Don't get me wrong, I still am stressed, but now I can see Natalie as a whole human being with many facets to her life. She brings such joy in so many ways... wet kisses, "HIIIIIIII", hugs, laughter, social, and more. She has many , many more opportunities than just school to be a whole person. Even though I feel this, I will never stop fighting for the best services.

One piece of advice, if I could....don't sign the IEP on the spot. Take it home, look it over, have an advocate look it over, sit on it for a few days.... then when you are ready, sign it. Also, you always have the right to call another meeting. Don't just sign something that you do not believe is the best plan for your child. You can ask for whatever you want. The sky is the limit!